ne major mistake people make when setting goals is focusing on what they don’t want, not what they do want. Instead of saying, I don’t want to be fat, so I will lose 40 pounds, re frame your goal to, I want to be healthy and fit, so I will lose enough weight to be at a healthy BMI.
If you’re struggling to identify the core of your goal and what you truly want, Robbins offers this simple advice: Do something physical.
“You’re going to get depressed if you drop your shoulders, drop your head, speak slowly and think about what you’re afraid of,” Robbins says. “But if I get you to go for a really intense run and we start to focus on what you want, you’re going to come up with what you want.”
People often identify what they don’t want instead of what they do want because of fear. Try to reframe your mindset so you’re not being guided by fear, but rather facing it head on.
“Most achievers are afraid of living a life falling short of who they are, what they stand for and what they want to give to their kids or their wife or the universe,” Robbins says. “Because of that, they’ll overcome their fears. You can turn fear on itself.”